The One That Got Away

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For roughly a week, busy daddy and I had the privilege of being daddy and dad to a beautiful, perfect little girl. This morning our temporary daughter’s birthparents changed their minds, and we gave her back to them.

In adoption parlance, it’s called a disruption. That’s when a placement goes haywire and adoptive parents have to return a child that they had grown to love and cherish back to the birthparents.

Nevermind that we’ve invested time and money and love into (temporarily) caring for this baby that we hoped would be our forever child, the ball is always in the birthparents’ court (as it should be) until termination papers are signed. If for whatever reason the birthparents decide against signing, and ultimately decide to parent their baby, then it’s game, set, match, and we’re left without the baby we thought hoped would be ours forever.

What can I tell you about my temporary daughter? She is beautiful and perfect in every single way. I know busy daddy and I would have given her a wonderful life. But, alas, we weren’t meant to be her forever parents.

Chance and circumstance can be a bitch sometimes. By chance, and only for a brief five days, our hypothetical daughter became an actual living breathing one. But circumstance had other plans in mind, and just as quickly as she was ours, she was just as quickly not.

I wish I could say something profound about all of this, but I can’t. Bad things happen all of the time, and something bad happened to us. But I am an optimist, albeit a very sad one right now. I know our daughter (or our son) is out there. I’m just waiting for the stars and the fates to realign so that we can find each other.

  1. whoopeewui said: my heart to you lazydad
  2. llmbandgcb said: I don’t know how I missed this but I am very sorry to hear. Thinking of you all!! Xo
  3. mylifewithbowie said: Oh, lazydad, I’m so so sorry to hear this. I can’t image how difficult this was for all three of you. I know that I’m just some stranger who reads what you write on my computer, but please know that I’m pulling for you guys.
  4. mediocremommy said: I’m so sorry….
  5. differentforgirls said: This is very and sad, and you have written about it so beautifully. Your baby girl/boy is out there and soon you will make perfect forever parents for them. Your family is truly beautiful. Loves xoxox
  6. yellowonesdontstop said: This broke my heart (and Kelly’s). Your son clearly takes after his fathers: Your second child will come.
  7. kvknowsherfun said: My heart breaks for you lazy/busy family.
  8. amipregnant said: This sucks! I’m sorry.
  9. ourminijourney said: Your little girl is waiting, you’ll find each other very soon.
  10. hawaiianmommy said: I’m so sorry Kipp.
  11. mykidsmaybecrazy said: I’m not so good at words, but…So much love for your family, will be thinking of you guys…
  12. weekenddeejay said: Can’t imagine. But know that’s what meant to be will be.
  13. ourlittlealaskanfamily said: My heart breaks for you guys. Sending you love
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