The boy and I had a jam-packed day. We capped off our Friday adventures with a quik-e trip to Target to Buy a Bunch of Things We Don’t Need But We Totally Want. I think the boy was pooped by the end of our day. I know I was.
It’s rare that I get to spend an entire day alone with my kid. I can’t remember the last non-weekend, non-vacation day that I got to eat all three meals with the boy. You know how full-time work and stuff get in the way of being a full-time dad? Yeah.
I don’t live other people’s lives and I definitely can’t (and don’t want to) judge others, but I’m always puzzled whenever I hear parents say that they need “a break” from their kids or a break from being parents. For me, I can never get enough time with my kid. The time we spend together is already so brief. It wasn’t so long ago that the boy was a wee baby, and now he’s a full-grown boy. It won’t be long before he’s a teen, and then a full-grown man, and then he’ll have a family of his own.
I can count on one hand the amount of times my dad spent a full, uninterrupted, undistracted day with me when I was a kid. On those rare occasions when it was just me and my dad, chances are good that he simply parked me in front of the TV or in front of some toys, while he read a book or the newspaper. By the time my dad wanted to have an actual conversation with me about actual things, I think it was probably too late.
I guess I’m trying to get my son into the habit of spending time with me and let him know that he can talk to me about stuff, that he can ask me questions, no matter how silly. I want him always to know that I love spending time with him, that being his dad isn’t a chore, it’s a great honor. Hopefully if I can train the boy to enjoy spending time with me when he’s five, it’ll be less of a stretch for him when he’s 15 or 25 or 35.
The boy asks me all of the time, “Dad, why do you take pictures all of the time?” I’ll say, Because I want to remember. And the boy will ask, “Remember what?” And I’ll say, Everything.
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- themamalogues said: And the cat’s in the cradle…..
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- littlepeople-biglove said: Ah huh, nodding, yes.
- asimpledad said: Exactly. Well written, well said.
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- songlessbutsinging said: Ok, I am a total girl, and it is late, so keep those things in mind„„,this post made me cry. He is lucky to gave you. Or rather, you are lucky to have each other.
- mamaswears said: I’ve been mostly solo parenting for over a week and have thought I was sick of my kid more than once. Thanks for showing how fucking wrong that is :)
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- kandiasschronicles said: This is so sweet.
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- bageldreams said: I like the way you think and agree on so many points. My kids are da bomb and I have the best time with them! ;)
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- misterbillforeal said: Remember everything. That’s perfect.
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